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When detachment works.

I have had my bout with detachment.

Like... That one time I detached from my body almost fully when I was pregnant due to a date gone wrong; which ended joyfully in the gifting of a child to a well deserving family.

but I digress..

Detachment and I, we have had our altercations and our love affairs, but recently I have come to realize that detachment isn't always the worst.

To clear things up a bit, the detachment I am referring to is: Detachment: the state of being objective or aloof. You know, in case you thought I was talking about a group of troops being sent away on a separate mission.. that my friends, will be for another day.

When it comes to my relationship with money, objects, people, and want; detachment plays an epic role at keeping me sane. Here are reasons how:

1) Detachment from money.

I used to be ob-to-the-sessed with money, but in an unhealthy way. Obsessed as in "there is never enough" sort of obsessed. Obsessed with constantly reminding myself of how little I had, even though most cases were untrue. I often had just enough, but my relationship with money deemed me as the girl who had 'too little'.

Then one day, something amazing happened. I began my own business and realized my ill relationship with money. Mental awareness kicked in and if I wanted to have this business actually go somewhere, I needed to make up with money and quickly.

I learned the art of detachment toward money and by this I began my "donation based yoga classes".

These began as my way to offer yoga to everyone, yet it quickly allowed witness the social experiment I didn't realize I was actually conducting. More and more people would ask, "but what do I pay you?" "Anything you want!" I would kindly answer and with a big toothy grin. "But, how will you survive?" (this is always a favorite of mine). "Um, I will be absolutely fine," and then I tell them about my awesome friend (and HUGE inspiration) Marty - he says "well, if I was hungry, would you feed me?" "yes" (most would say) "would you give me a room if I needed a place to stay for a night?" "sure" (again, most would say). This shows that our attachment to money can honestly hold us back. My openness to receive as others wish to give me has opened doors, not only doors of communication (because, honestly when we say "do what you want" to someone whom may be used to having someone else decide for them, it can turn into a powerful conversation); it also opens the experience of receiving more than I ever imagine and flexibility in offering classes to ALL people.

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Here is one way you may attempt to detach from money, if you are struggling with this: Each time you receive cash whether from a friend, change at a store, or business transaction state "Thank you money for showing up for me today! I am so grateful and thankful for you!" It creates a feeling of fulfillment instead of the feeling of lack. Plus, the more you do this, the more you may notice money coming to you, thereby also negating the feelings of lack.

2) Detachment from people.